Emotional blackmail can take different forms and may vary depending on the situation and the person using it. However, some common modus operandi for emotional blackmailing include:

  • Threats: The manipulator may threaten to harm themselves or others, or threaten to end the relationship if their demands are not met.
  • Guilt-tripping: The manipulator may use guilt or shame to make the other person feel responsible for their emotions or actions. They may make the other person feel selfish or uncaring if they don't comply with their wishes.
  • Withholding love and affection: The manipulator may refuse to show love and affection or may give the silent treatment until their demands are met.
  • Blaming and criticizing: The manipulator may blame the other person for their problems or negative emotions, and criticize them for not being supportive or caring enough.
  • Creating a sense of obligation: The manipulator may make the other person feel indebted to them, or may create a sense of obligation by reminding them of past favors or sacrifices.
  • Using manipulation tactics: The manipulator may use other forms of manipulation such as gaslighting, triangulation, or playing the victim to gain control over the other person.

It is important to recognize these tactics and set boundaries to protect yourself from emotional blackmail. It's important to remember that you are not responsible for the other person's emotions or actions, and you have the right to say no without feeling guilty or ashamed.